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Is There no Mathematics to Love and Loss?

Well, it’s been about a week since the mass flood of sugar, sappy poems and hearts in my msn window, that’s right, here come’s a post Valentine’s day edition of me being overly critical of something. Now, there are many ways people usually describe this overly-capitalized upon (can you say Hallmark?) feeling of infatuation that many of us will go through over the course of our lives. Some say it’s like soaking in a sauna of pure bliss, while others may see it as an addiction; where even the voice of your partner can stem your cravings. At the opposite side of the spectrum, it is not unheard of for love to be the cause, rather than the combatant of pain, misery and suffering. The scientist calls love a chemical coctail residing in your brain, set off by a mixture of hormone, and sensations. Some will even go as far as calling love nothing more than an illusion. However one thing can be said that encompasses all these ideas; love is exactly as you view it, it is the “x” of feelings, into which any given person may substitute their own given value into, to create a relationship perfectly suited for themselves.

For instance, resigning to my slumber on the 14th; I was yet again lacking a valentine I could call my own, not that it particularly bothered me. In this moment, I was struck with a metaphor of my own: “Love is reminicent of a delicacy; it is not obtained easily, it is to be treasured, it is wonderful if you have it, but will not impair you if you lack in it” I do well know that being a heartless person will be detrimental to you in some ways, but do recall I am restricting my thoughts strictly to romantic love at  this time.

Over the course of this week though, I managed to accquire a more intricate metaphor to describe romantic love. Now to say that love is a game, would be exceeding my own bounds on the subject, but I have noticed, that romantic love, is in many ways similar to the First-Person-Shooter genre of videogames that is so popular in this day and age. For instance, First-Person-Shooters of a nominal grade will include a variety of game modes. In the campaign, or single-player mode, the player will complete tasks, and advance throughout the storyline of the game. After completing this story, the player may continue playing the campaign, but more often than not this will not be enough to satisfy the player in question. This is a good example of “unrequited love”; wherein it is one-sided(single player), and has different levels (however, the hardest difficulty would most likely be considered stalking, but let’s not go there.). Just like in the game, the player, will become dissatisfied with single player mode, which runs parallel to not being satisfied with just having a crush on someone. So the next step? Why, take it online of course. Just like the ESRB states, your experience may change once you decide to enter multiplayer mode, for example; in any multiplayer FPS online, it is not uncommon, and it is even expected of you to be completely decimated by your opponents. You are now stepping out of the “safe”, prescripted world of single player mode, into the varying, unpredictable world of multiplayer mode.

Let’s take the amount of time you live as your success in the relationship; the longer, the better. Sometimes you may be killed immediately, which would be rejection in the world of romance, however; as you gain experience, and become more skilled, you tend to live longer. Simply put, being in a relationship, but not lasting long will give you opportunities to learn what not to do  the next time. Then again, you might end up being completely anomalous in your success, and manage to survive a long time sometimes, but die quickly at others.

There are many parallels that can be drawn between the flower-lined streets of love, and the dark warpaths of  First-Person-Shooters. I could run rampant on how, the effectiveness of weapons on certain character classes, is the same as catering to the ways to bring happiness into the lives of the different people you are bound to meet. The only problem I see here, is that my “off-the-beaten-path” metaphor for romantic love, would become less of a metaphor and more of a theory, as I went along. Getting back to basics, I would simply say that you’ve got to expect a lot of awkwardness, among other feelings when going from single player to multiplayer.

So in all honesty, I must view love in a variety of ways, using a variety of metaphors, in order to find the proper values that fit what I believe. My “x” value is yet the output of another function, which could continue on into eternity, encompassing every breath I take, and every thought that my mind produces. I guess that’s what makes love so special, it is unique to each and every one of us, in ways that even our own minds cannot begin to fathom, therein lies it’s mystery as well as it’s beauty.

On a semi-related note; has anyone noticed that when people try and create imagery for how much they love someone, they strech their arms as far apart as possible? In my opinion, it would be more effective to cross one’s arms in the style of the Egyptian mummies; clutching their shoulders. My reason for thinking this, would be the fact that your armspan has two defined endpoints, whilst crossing your arms in the aforementioned position, creates a symbol we all fondly know as infinity. =D

Although it's a week late, here's to all the readers. Hope you had a good one. =)

Although it's a week late, here's to all the readers. Hope you had a good one. =)

  1. February 21, 2009 at 11:02 AM

    i lol’ed at the end
    ..and.. dam vocaloid <.<

  2. February 23, 2009 at 9:03 AM

    Very thought provoking… I’ve never thought of using the infinity symbol as a figurative expression for love. My personal choice would be a Fibonacci Spiral as it goes on for eternity but is also considered ‘irrational’ 🙂

  3. DanDan
    February 23, 2009 at 9:22 PM

    flandrumhill, that’s a really good one, irrationalities are one thing that love is chock full of 🙂 Not to mention you’ve peaked my interest in the Fibonacci Spiral; This is the first time I’ve heard of it to be honest.

  4. February 24, 2009 at 1:27 PM

    It’s also called the Golden Spiral as it’s based on the Golden Ratio. It’s found in nature in the design of pinecones and shells like the Chambered Nautilus. A good explanation of the math behind it can be found at

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